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moral problem

chiel — Sun, 29 Jul 2007 09:25:39 GMT

Hi i have a moral problem, you know how man can be jurks, i bullied a woman ofcourse becasue i lliked her and ofcourse beause womna can automatically open your feelings by just looking at you or being with you with scares the hell out of me and with fears comes agression, uh ok bullied i made a very nasty remark on her appearance, yes because i was struggling with own,still am Older and wiser and knowing we a moral entities istead of all the bullshit we are told by televiiosn and society i am questioning if i should make up. It has been 10 years from now but i still have the pictures in my mind clearly because what is time. I know woman have good memory so i think she remembers well also because it was on a critical period of her life :18 ( i am not 55 i just was annoyed i had dispose my age so i filled in a wrong number but ok why don.'t be open
Maybe i am the only one who's got a problem with it. But i know this living morally is living happily, but ofcourse in this century of confusion i don't know what it means to be moral, lots of doubts but 28 apparantly seems to be an age where thing become clearer in the mind and things fall in place. What should i do should isend her and email say i am sorry I know we got this idea of not going back to your past but what is your past ? the last second minut hour day. Why being busy wtih time insetad of what's in your heart and mind. Still sending this email feels like i am doing something completely against all laws and common sense. Please understand that iam not trying to sending her a love letter, she is however undoubtly a beautiful woman now maybe married or with a boy friend, wich makes it maybe a bit more difficult, maybe even wrong according to the mind with the ideas it has, but in some it feels good, only i have so cross i huge border
Ok, why i am making such i point of this all and don't let it rest.Because i want to move on but i amstuck in teh past, not only with this issue
Thank you very much for your wisdom, waiting for your reply
Chiel Abrahams

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Possible Molestation

Julie — Wed, 04 Jul 2007 05:46:08 GMT

This is complicated. Sorry, bear with me please?

My friend's half-sister "Jane" (about 10 or 11) is *possibly* being molested by Jane's step-father. This is speculation based off of Jane's actions and behavior. Jane's older half-sister "Erin" has tried to report this possibility to the authorites, but then the step-father and mother accused ERIN of innapropriate behavior with her own son. Meanwhile, Erin discovered her son (5 years old) and Jane in the bathroom, where Jane was behaving innappropriately (don't know what). So, Erin keeps her son away from the step-father and Jane, and now is gunshy at persuing more legal action against the step-father.

So. What do I do? Anything? Nothing? Is this a "family" thing, where, as a friend only, I don't have any reason or right to get involved?

Thanks for any feed back.

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Separated but not yet divorced

Paula — Fri, 20 Apr 2007 11:56:11 GMT

I met a man a few months back who, though he had separated from his wife 3 years ago was not yet divorced. This would not be a problem for most people but I am a Christian and it weighed heavy on my mind from the start. I have now discussed this with him and though he was a little taken aback, he seems ok. What do I do now. I feel we should go our separate ways and should our paths cross in future and the situation be different then see how things go. He wants to maintain contact, which will only end up with us seeing each other again. Am I being too 'straight down the line'? What are your thoughts?

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Post-breakup resposibilities

Jimmy — Sun, 10 Jul 2005 02:33:46 GMT

My girlfriend and I are breaking up after a number of years together. For the last year we've been living together. During this time I have been working and providing for everything. She has been pursuing her passion (and she is very talented), but unfortunately there is no money in that for the short term.

Now that we will be living separately, am I morally responsible to financially support her. If so, to what extent and for how long? She doesn't have family or other people that can help her financially and feels that although we weren't legally married, for all extents and purposes I should provide her with "alimony". I sympathize, but what am I supposed to do?

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Sexual Dilemma

Sun, 28 Mar 2004 07:34:59 GMT

Reprinted with permission:

Question:

ok larry. here's the moral/ethical dilemma.......
i'm a lesbian (are you already gonna shoot me?!?) that has an open relationship with my long-term partner.

I fell in love w/ a boy when i was 15. (uh, that was like, 18 years ago, btw) and after over a year together, my family moved away to another state.

The boy and i never got closure, never "broke up", just moved and kept living.

Well, thru the fabulous world of internet and email, we have found each other. and now, he wants to see me. he is married and his wife, who is "bi", sees other women, but no men. and he is "monogamous". i have no desire to spend the rest of my life w/ this man. and he really has no desire to do so w/ me.

We've talked about seeing each other by spending a weekend together or something like that...... and there is the potential for sexual intimacy.

In my relationship, it is not a problem (altho' i need to discuss w/ her the possibilities of relations w/ boys).

His wife would not know.

Whaddaya think?

Will i hate myself forever? or get over it after a week's time has passed and i've i had the weekend of my life, only to come back to my happy lesbian home?

If you feel that you cannot answer this question due to any bias or misunderstanding, please say so! But i'm interested in your answer!

Answer:

Ok, first let me say that I can answer the question without bias or misunderstanding. Since you're not asking me about whether being bi/lesbian/straight or whatever is right or wrong I won't address that. I'll address the question itself.

It would be catagorically wrong for you to get involved with this guy. Why? Becuase he's married. It doesn't matter what his wife's sexual proclivities are, presumably when they got married they made a covenenant to be faithful to each other. Whether one or both parties finds that convenant obstructive now at this point is irrelevant. If they choose to break the convenant then they can seek divorce.

Until that time, I would advise that you have NOTHING to do with him. Even if he's willing, it's still not right for him to get involved with you since he's married to someone else.

If you do choose to go forward with it you may or may not regret it later but that's not the issue. What are the unintended consequences. If he's monogomous why would you lure him in to a sexual relationship? You could be dragging HIM in to something he will regret for a long time.
Just because he's fine with his wife being bisexual doesn't mean his wife would be fine with him being with other women. You have to consider BOTH of them since they are married.

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The Ex's Email

bailey — Mon, 10 May 2004 07:50:20 GMT

Hahaha.... I've never told anyone this before, but I check my ex's email sometimes, just for fun. We broke up about a year and a half ago, and he's dumb enough that he hasn't changed his password. How bad am I for this?

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Larry

Wed, 31 Mar 2004 05:33:07 GMT

Poot zee gun down. Wee yur fwends here.

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Best Served Cold

Sun, 28 Mar 2004 03:00:51 GMT

Larry, what's your take on the exchanges I've had with Chip? Do you think I'm right or wrong to be angry about this, and what would your advice be as to my future actions, if any should be required?

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